Mom's meddling again

Hey sweetie,

You’re going to the nurse today, right? I hope you’re feeling a little better.

I talked to Rachel last night in my class about Wegman’s and she said, you have to apply online. She says for the holidays they do hire a lot of people and it would be unusual not to get a call. They have shifts up to midnight, and need a lot of people to keep all registers open in Nov, Dec. I would definitely apply there, you can also stop by on your way home, and go to the information desk asking for an application.

Another thing. There’s a young man in my class who stands out because he is so nice and down-to-earth, and when he gave his presentation last night, his hands trembled. All the mothers were like, awww, that poor thing, he was so adorable telling us about a game he plays, similar to chess. His name is Michael, he’s 22, is taller than you and single. That’s all I know so far. Oh, and he doesn’t have Facebook. b/c one girl talked about it and she asked who has fb accounts and he said he’s probably the only one who doesn’t have one. So I made it a point to show your pictures in my wallet to the girls next to me and he saw it, he said, wow. He’s shy, so the girls were like why don’t you ask her (you) out, and he seemed interested. (He’s decent looking, average, but certainly not ugly, wears glasses when he reads, but not all the time and he’s slim, but not too skinny). Anyway, if you want, you guys could exchange email addresses, I think that’s the way he said he could contact someone, I hope he has a cell phone and knows how to text. But he is a man who’s past the silly, getting drunk to act stupid stage, and I know that’s what you’re interested in, not stupid drunks. Let me know and I can give him your email address next week. He would be the type who lets you do what you like and is patient, but of course I don’t know him that well. Just a quiet, nice, decent person who respects others, hopefully that doesn’t sound boring to you. You could keep living your life and have someone to depend on at the same time. And you could wear heels.

All right, let me know what the nurse said.

Mom

he seems really nice, but can i see a picture of him somehow?

I can ask him either to send you one or take one of him, since the topic was already put on the table, haha. Honey, you have to remember that you are so pretty that boys automatically assume that you have a significant other in your life, especially since you wear a heart-shaped ring on your finger, they think you’re engaged. I don’t want to meddle, but on the other hand, when God sends us an opportunity, we have to grab it. He’s just too good to be passed over without giving it a try.

Later, Mom

we have to grab it?? I'm pretty sure you don't need to be involved in my dating life but whatever and if I want to get married on halloween on a saturday i have 5 years nd I dont think i want to be with same person for that long before I get married maybe like 2 years…

…And then hopefully for the rest of your life…By we I meant I found him and you grab him. I ain’t grabbing nothing nomore…Mom

I want a new computer

Thursday, October 13, 2011: Food for thought: Heyyyy 

just thinking since to make my Wednesdays more obnoxious my Earth Science professor requires us to bring a laptop to class because we do a lot of online lesson type of things in class but my math professor also requires us to take our text books to class plus the book I'm reading for English, therefore by the end of the day my arm feels like its going to rip off and fall on the floor on my way back to my dorm. Sooo here is my idea, since you want a laptop to work on your writing and since you dream of sitting in a coffee shop in NYC somewhere and writing all day, you can do this more efficiently with a laptop since every Internet cafe has free wifi, you can take my laptop because there is absolutely nothing wrong with it other than the fact that it is quiet bulky, I mean its fine if you're not carrying a massive text book along with it. And I can buy a smaller, thinner laptop to take to class with me  

Idk think it over

Alexandra

I’ll send this to dad and ask him, not sure yet, since we had a lot of expenses lately. Mom

I know it was just an idea since you want one and there is nothing wrong with mine and it already has microsoft word and all that. Don't get me wrong I like mine its just a pain in the butt to carry around like it is not campus friendly.

Working with frat boys is like working with five-year-olds

Wednesday October 12, 2011: sooooo right now I'm crazy busy especially on the weekends with sisterhood events and service events and homecoming and midterms that it seems that i wont be able to come home until like halloween weekend because I'm hopefully still going to XY University with  Hannah. But i'm pretty sure that i am free on sunday the 16th if you wanted to come up and get food or something and I will also see you at homecoming if you guys are still coming. I just wanted to let you know that right now i really dont have time to come home and that right now things are pretty hectic and a little stressful, plus my throat is killing me and yes I am taking my Emergen-Cs lol 

anyway thats my life right now, I can't believe my favorite month is already almost over! waahhhh lol 

xo Alexandra

wow. You sound really busy and productive and involved in campus life. Of course I can come up on Sunday. Can you please put schoolwork before sorority stuff? You don’t have to be at every meeting and event. And of course we’re still on for homecoming next Saturday. I hope you have a lot of fun this month, your favorite one. Please watch your money, you don’t need to eat out every day, other than what’s already pre-paid, okay. Let me know if you need anything. Mom

Wednesday October 12, 2011: I made an appointment with health services for tomorrow at 10 so hopefully it isn’t anything and its just cuz the weather is changing or something like that. and i do put school before my sorority im just saying i have a lot of stuff to do with them on the weekends like on saturday we are going pumpkin picking at xxx farms! But homecoming is next weekend so we have to like build and paint stuff and at least we are working with a frat so they are like building everything but its like working with 5 year olds

At what time does homecoming start, just in case dad wants to go in to work in the morning?

tailgating is at 10 in the xxx arena parking lot (thats where I'll be cuz thats where are the organizations have booths) at 1030 there is food and games and other fun stuff in the visitors lot which is right by xxx, there are a bunch of balloons and stuff like you cant miss where all this will be (well maybe YOU can loll) and the game starts at 12

Awesome, you sound like an adult. Great stuff, kid. Keep up the good work. When do midterms start? When I come up on Sunday, what shall I bring you grocery-wise?

next week are midterms

Kids burn out early in this rat race

September 30, 2011:

My friend Maureen emailed me with a plea to pray for her oldest daughter who graduated in May of last year and started a teaching position that same fall. Now, in her second year, she already feels burned out. It began to sink in that after all the hard work of studying to become a teacher, this is what her life will be now for a very long time. She seems down and discouraged.

I will keep her in my prayers. You have to remember, these kids go to high school, have activities, enter college, and then boom have to go straight into their career. It's too much. I had a year off, not really off, but as an au-pair, I got to travel, didn't have to study, just learn the language, and weigh my options. Then I came back home and worked in a factory for a couple years, only 4-5 hours a day! Had a lot of down time, figured things out, lived at home. We didn't go straight from school to a career, I actually took my sweet time and lived carefree at home until I got married. Why is it so hard today? It's great and lucky that she has a real job right out of college, but now she knows what it will be like for the next 40 years, which is scary. I think when Al is done with school, I'll let her take a break for a while. She can live at home, work part time, or spend some time in Germany. This rat race life is not healthy. I am okay with it now, because I had years of different jobs and experiences. Since we have a mortgage and a kid to raise, I know what's expected. But in my early twenties, I wanted to do things before I got serious. Jen is having a lot of fun, but when does she ever have time to relax? It's so much pressure from all directions. The world nowadays is too set on performance and I refuse to be dictated by it. Okay, so I make less money, but I manage. We have a smaller home, drive used cars, shop at Goodwill or wear my sister’s hand-me-downs, and we hardly ever eat out, the hell with instant gratification. This rat race attitude makes my head spin. Not sure why I started ranting like this, but you know what I'm saying. Jen feels stuck in her career and never got to take a break, but it would probably have been good for her. Remind me to let Al goof off when she's has her degree...

Heather

Maureen wrote back saying she emailed her daughter and encouraged her to take a year off, or move back home to save money until she sorts things out.

I responded: To tell the truth, for me it's more important that Al is in college for everything else, not just the education part. Of course I want her to have a degree in something, but it's not the main thing. She's finding herself out there and she is so much happier than last year. I think it's worth it.

A wise father said to his son (now a famous author) who dropped out of college and moved to the other side of the country. "Well son, I tried to help you out, but you want to do it your way. If it doesn't work out, you know where we are."

Isn't that the most comforting thing to say to your child? Go out into the world, look around, and if it doesn't work out, you can always come home.

Let's remind ourselves to be parents like that.

Heather

PS: Sometimes I'm glad to be average, and to have an average child, expectations are just not that high and we can relax. Right now she is working on homecoming, a huge paper, and laundry. That to me is a nice mix, but then again, I'm weird.

I can't make this up

Mon, 26 Sep 2011

Hey Alex,

Hope you had a nice weekend, I got a lot of writing done, read a novel I was waiting for for 2 months, so that was good. Dad worked most of the time, and our pool has now turned a bright lime green color. We're getting our outside basement steps and doors replaced this week, all for the cat so he can go out at night in style and comfort.

We just love our kids and pets,

Happy week,

Mom

I had a dream last night that my toilet was haunted and bit my butt when I peed at night o.O (Alex)

That is the silliest dream I ever heard of. Can I use it in a book? Mom

Idk what type of book you’re writing where that would fit in...

The fantasy with the cupid and at one point she does have a strange dream, but I think that might be way to strange. Can you think of a funny/crazy dream?

No I can't make this stuff up

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

im famous! the incredible comedian gabriel iglesias (the really fat one with the

hawaiian shirts) is following me on twitter! Alex

I hate Wednesdays!

Mon, 19 Sep 2011

The puppy my co-worker was supposed to get this weekend got into some chocolate

and died after having seizures. So no Jett

The breeder is giving them this one instead, Maximilian. I want it!!! Mom

omg thats horrible!

but at least the breeder is giving them another one whose just as cute

Good, at least you're up Mom

I've been up since 715! I hate Wednesdays

Listen, do not resign from the 8 o'clock class just because you hate to get up that early.

It's only until December, you can sleep in on Thursdays, and I am running out of money if you cut out classes because you don't like the time. You will finish up all your courses, do not get the dumb idea of doing this class next semester. Absolutely not! It's only for a few months. Mom

Woah chill mad work. All I said was I was up since 715 u really need to stop overreacting to every little thing I say that's why families stop talking to each other for like 10 years or until someone dies.

(She dropped a class before, so I didn’t pull this out of my nose)

Holy Moses, look who’s overreacting now.

I just wanted to mention that before you get an idea of dropping the class in your head. Mom

Ik ik but I wasn't thinking that I was just saying that wednesdays suck cuz I have a 3 hour 8am nd 2 classes back to back right after it before I can even think about getting food or taking a nap therefore I hate wednesdays being up early doesn't bother me

(Well, at least she’s still talking to me.)

Don't go to New York this weekend!

Thursday, Sept. 8, 2011

Hey Sweets,

Was everything all right that I brought last night?

Did you like the tiger marionette Dad bought at the street fair?

How much did you spend on your books, do you have everything now?

Please don't drive anywhere north today, there will be flooding everywhere. Try to stay off the road, okay?

Take good care of yourself, do your homework, see you when the other books arrive, Love Mom

Yeah everything was fine and the tiger is cute!

Date: Fri, 9 Sep 2011

Subject: this weekend                            

Hey Alex,

How was last night? Just nosy.

Listen, are you still going to NYC with your friends tomorrow? Dad is very nervous, because there have been real terrorist threats sent out for NY and DC areas. The security will be through the roof, but I would avoid the subways. You don't want to be in a tunnel if a bomb goes off. (haha, always thinking positive) Could you go on another weekend? Please talk it over with your friends, maybe their parents are trying to tell them not to go, either. It's really risky this weekend, with it being the 10th anniversary. If you do go, just keep texting us periodically, so we know you're safe.

When will I ever be done worrying about you?

Mom

Will u relax! Alyssa's birthday isn't till the 25th so we're not going this weekend anyways but I think I have a sorority yard sale so I'm prob staying up here still

And last night was so fun! Alex

As long as you can manage to go to all your classes on Fridays.

Have fun, I am glad you're doing all these things. Love, Mom

Yup I made it to my first class I'm on my way to English now and for the first time since being in college I understand 100% what I learned in math class today

Late night calls result in little heart attacks

Okay, Alexandra is safely back at school after four months of summer break, the third semester will begin in a few days. Originally she wanted to room with a friend from last year, but during the summer the girl withdrew because she couldn’t afford living in a dorm anymore and has to commute. I was more bummed than Alexandra who now knows none of her suitemates but says she’s not worried.  I hope we don’t have the same drama as in the first semester.

Date: Wed, 31 Aug 2011: Hey Sweetie,

How are you? Take care of yourself. We miss you very much, but will see you this weekend, yayyy

Until soon, Mom

heyyy

miss you too but i hung out with my friends yesterday so it was like nothing changed since last year so its good
i met my other suitemates yesterday, they seem pretty nice but room change day is sept 11th so we'll see till then how it goes
love you!

Tue, 6 Sep 2011 Hey, good morning,

You forgot Tracey's Biology book. I hope it's okay when I bring it up with your other stuff, and not too late for her.

Have a wonderful week,

Mom

oh man im such an idiot but yea i told her and she said it was okay she doesnt really need it yet and if she does shes gonna tell her teacher that she ordered it online and that it hasnt come in yet. but i also left soo many other things at home!

List: 

my black and purple fuzzy slippers (they're prob under one of the beds or in the loft area or in the shoe box)

my round brush (need it to blow dry my hair)

my sweat pants (should be on the banister)

and i think thats it lol for now

xo alexandra

Okay, I'll make a run up there this week and also bring your bagels. Mom (she has an apartment with three other girls, and a kitchen with fridge/freezer, sink and microwave, stove/oven is in a common kitchen downstairs.

Wednesday Sept. 7, 2011

Hi Alex,

You better be in your 8AM class.

Please send me the list of things you need me to bring up tonight, yellow shorts, bikini top (which one).

Love, Mom

PS: When you call us that late at night, we are having little heart attacks