Saturday, July 23, 2011

Dark and Quiet

Wednesday, Dec. 1st, 2010: Happy first of December! Open your first window in the calendar. Before you’re even done with the calendar, you’ll be home for a month. Mom

i know i opened it and it was good. not as good as the european chocolates but still good
i got a letter from aunt liese yesterday

Later Alex sent me a huge email about the problems she is having with her roommate and her friends. I will not disclose it here, but it had to do with not getting enough sleep or privacy.

We tried to solve it several ways:
Ask Alyssa what days she leaves at what time, maybe you can coordinate with her to drive home and back in the morning for one day a week, to get your sleep. Especially during finals. You need to sleep and study, I might even run up and get you one afternoon, if you have a ride back the next morning. This won’t last forever, it’s definitely a learning and adjustment period.
Bring an eye-mask like I wear to make the room dark, and I have earplugs for you. Mom

i mean i sleep in meghann’s room on tuesdays usually and i try not to be in the room a lot but i mean idk she is considerate sometimes its not like all the time so idk but yeah im looking for a new room next semester.

Good idea. You need your sleep. I would even consider paying more for a single unless you find a great match to room with. Here are two good quotes to remember to keep things in perspective:
You can’t learn to sail on a smooth sea, and
This will be better by the time you’re twice married

i dont think they have single rooms and i dont mind having roomates im just not friends with mine and i feel like everybody else is...

Thu, 2 Dec 2010: Do you know where to go about changing roommates? When do you need to start the process?
I thought of something that might help for now. Bring one of these eye masks with you, and we’ll get you a CD player, calming music and headphones, this way you’ll have it dark and can tune out the noise, it will work wonders. Remember I used to relax like that on the couch and was oblivious to the world. And it’s easy to fall asleep while listening to calm music and ocean sounds.
Also, find a quiet place on campus, probably the library, where you can go for a snooze and quiet and regroup, even just for a half hour or hour.
You have to lay down the law with your roommates without getting into a fight if possible, and if they are mad, so what, you’re mad too. Tell them calmly you have earlier classes and need to get through finals, you need your sleep.
We’ll talk more when you’re home tomorrow. Mom

Okay

Heather, how are you and Alexandra today? Maureen

I've sent her some advice, like headphones with calming music to fall asleep even if others are in her room, and an eye mask. We'll see.
We will have a nice long talk with her when she's home. Roy made the mistake of asking how she's doing last night, so I told him. He said: "Take her out then," so he's no help. I will buy her a CD player with calming music and an eye mask for darkness. I know she can be very bitchy and tries hard not to get too mad. I printed out the housing rules and she's definitely right. She can switch roommates after the first week of the next semester. For now we'll let her sleep as much as she wants when she's home. Heather

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